The exciting, then not so exciting Start...

A little history about my health. My whole life I have been relatively healthy. The only thing that has been irregular are my cycles (TMI, I know but this is part of our journey) This runs in my family, and I just assumed this was normal in some people. All three of my sister didn't have any issues having kids. In fact, I have 8 nieces and nephews on my side of the family alone.

It wasn't until my husband, Mr. J and I decided to try and start a family. It didn't occur to me that an irregular cycle is not normal. I had gone 6 months, or more with out one. I spoke to my doctor about it when I was around 20, and all she said was it may make it more difficult to have a child, but that was it. She didn't make it seem like a big deal, so I didn't think much more about it.

February 15, 2015...

On this day, Mr. J and I had been married for about 10 months, but together for 6 years and 9 months. A month prior to this day, Mr. J and I decided that I would finish the birth control I was on, and we would stop preventing pregnancy.

The first two month after I stopped the pill, I had normal cycles. I thought... "maybe all I needed, was to get on the pill and it would make me regular." After the second month, I didn't have another cycle for a year and 1 month (now in 2016). I knew that this was not normal, and needed to go see a REAL OBGYN, not just a primary care doctor, who doesn't recommend their clients to specialist when something concerning comes up.

We continued for yet another year (now in 2017) and couldn't get a positive pregnancy test. We didn't really have any guidance except for "Don't think about it", "Go get drunk, thats how my sister got pregnant". Then seeing friends on Facebook getting pregnant by accident, or planning to have their second or third kid, and it happens with out any issues (so it seemed) made me think, well maybe that's what we need to do. Just stop thinking about it and just let it happen. When it's meant to happen, it will happen. Let me just say, this is not the case for everyone.

My mother in law, Mama J, recommended me to her OB, and like normal I procrastinated and didn't schedule an appointment with her until the beginning of the next year (now in 2018). I explained to her everything that was going on, and she conducted an annual exam. She asked me if I have irregular cycles, and unwanted facial hair. The answer to both of those questions was yes. She said you may have Polycystic Ovary syndrome (PCOS).

I had heard of this syndrome and it crossed my mind that I might have it. One of Mr. J's friends had it, and had success with help from her OB to get pregnant. I suspected, but was hopeful.

What is PCOS:

Polycystic ovary syndrome is a disorder involving infrequent, irregular or prolonged menstrual periods, and often excess male hormone (androgen) levels. The ovaries develop numerous small collections of fluid — called follicles — and may fail to regularly release eggs.

Source: Mayo Clinic

Thanks for reading. In the next post, I will explain the next phase of our Journey to Baby J